For me, deciding what I want is one of the hardest, yet most rewarding parts in the Law of Attraction. Last week, I started doing The Magic practices (I’ll do a separate post for that), which essentially is a 28-day gratitude practice that is supposed to help you attract your dream life. I can feel gratitude and attract my dream life? SIGN ME UP.
Oh, wait. That means I have to know what my dream life IS, doesn’t it? I just have to make a list of everything I want, seems easy enough. Right? Except, it’s not. I had plans to do this for 3 days before I started, and didn’t end up doing it until my 3rd day in. So it took me almost a week to just sit my butt down and get clear on what I wanted! WHAT!? In The Secret Joe Vitale says that it’s just like placing my order with the universe, going through a catalog. Well, the world and my dreams aren’t as clear cut as going through a catalog, and it’s hard for me.
I remember about two and a half years ago, I just ended things with a guy that was all wrong for me. Instead of being sad, I was feeling inspired and wrote a list of my dream man and relationship. That next morning, I woke up so happy and just knew something magical would happen that day. Later that day I met a guy who went to my college – a small school of 3,000 – and neither of us had heard of or seen each other before. He was everything on that list. While over time, I realized I wanted some changes on that list, and the more changes I wanted the less perfect our relationship seemed. But, it was EXACTLY what I had wanted, intended, and asked for at the time. I always remember this story when I go to write down my desires, because it really was like magic.
The problem with that story that scares me, is that what if I write down something I want, get it, and then change my mind? I felt like the second I could commit to a dream and write it down, it will get sent into the universe and it is going to come right around to me, as long as I don’t get in my own way. So, I have to really take the time and energy to figure out exactly what I want, knowing there’s a good chance I’ll get it. And that is exciting and so terrifying to me!
Eventually, I decided I would get clear on just 3 categories in my life: career, health and love. While there are so many other categories, these 3 seem to take up most of my time and energy as it is, and are the most important to me. So, I would recommend you start with a couple things you know are important to you and that you want. Doesn’t matter if they are big things, I realize my categories are, but they could be small things like a pair of shoes you’ve always wanted. I’m not here to judge what is most important to you right now, and guess what? Neither is the universe.
So, since I want to make this blog as honest as possible, I am going to share the highlights of what I asked for, so I can update when they come to me, how I’m feeling about them, and if I get to a point of contentment with or without them.
- Career – I want to change the world, and I want to be a writer. I want freedom, and I want to feel important and like I am doing something important.
- Health – I want to be able to change some parts of my body with law of attraction. While I won’t get into exact detail, I have an ideal image of beauty in my mind, and I want to see how close I can get to that using my mind.
- Love – I want my soulmate. This was the hardest category to get clear on, because I have this huge internal battle of wanting to be the person of my dreams myself before I meet my soulmate. I want them to meet me at my best, and I am hungry for more. So, accepting what I wanted in a soulmate and letting go of the timing was huge for me, but I am so happy I did it!
Join me on this journey and define what you want! You owe it to yourself. Because if you can’t even tell yourself what you want, how do you expect to ever get it? And why would you live your life at anything less than exactly what you want? You don’t have to, so don’t!